I have been blessed (cursed?) with the inability to say what I want to say when I want to say it. The following scenario has happened more than once in my lifetime, most recently this afternoon.
Person A says something rude and ignorant.
Person B (me) says nothing. Simply turns the other cheek and ignores said ignorant comment, cringing at Person A's bad manners.
THEN, after the fact, I can think of exactly what I wanted/should have said to Person A. What I should have said to Person A, for example was....
Excuse me, but who are you to judge another person's situation and assume that your current condition/situation is better than the next? I know it might be hard to come down from the pedestal that you have so humbly placed yourself on, but the truth is that you are NOT always right. Your ways are NOT always the best ways, and NO ONE wants to hear your two cents about everything. You mentioned the quality of selflessness. If you weren't so close-minded, you would know that selflessness means sacrificing your own iterests for the greater good. The tricky part of actually practicing selflessness is knowing what the greater good is. This requires looking past the here and now and understanding that what may be best for you is not what is best for another person. Also, it is impossible for you to decide what is or isn't best for another person and his/her family. The great thing about the Gospel is that Heavenly Father allows us to make our own decisions and choose our own paths. If we prayerfully make these decisions and listen to the promptings of the Spirit, he will guide us in the right direction. YOU (Person A) are actually NOT part of that process, nor do you have the right to judge the decisions and sacrifices of another person. Usually, the best things require the greatest sacrifices and are therefore the hardest decisions we will ever make. Instead of making rude comments, you might consider supporting those around you in the decisions that they have made. As far as I see it, the only difference between you are those students that you complain about (you know the ones without the filters between their brains and their mouths) is that you raise your hand before you talk.
Maybe one day I will actually say what I want to say when I want to say it. Maybe its a good thing that I never can. Either way, I wish some people weren't so quick to judge another. We would all be much better off... life is hard enough without the negative criticism of those around us. Can't we just all love each other?
